Confidence is… (Part IV)


I know I’ve been MIA for a while, but it’s been quite a busy month! And now look… it’s the last day of April and I’ve only got one post to share! 🙁 At the very least I had to share a post this month to add on to my “Confidence Is” collection! Enjoy the read. MUAH!

Part IV

Confidence is…

  1. Embracing Your Flaws: We all have them. Maybe you hate how wide your hips are, or that weird thing you do whenever your nervous. Maybe you’re tired of your impulsive behavior always getting you in a rut, or perhaps you’ve missed out on so many opportunities because of how shy you are. Whether external or internal our flaws can hold us back from being our true selves. Some of our “imperfections” are completely unpreventable, so why not embrace them? We associate flaws (especially the physical) as negative attributes, when in actuality our flaws are what makes us unique. Accepting your flaws means that you are comfortable with who you are, and you don’t care what others may think. It takes time to be confident and comfortable with any unfavored traits of ourselves, but we have to at least try to come to terms with them, and with time, it will happen. Embrace your flaws… because no one is perfect. For those flaws that we can improve on, why not take the necessary baby steps to make a change? You can’t expect change without putting forward any effort.
  2. Owning Your Mistakes: Just as we all have flaws, we all make mistakes. Some mistakes are inevitable. And I’m sure we’ve all been told that the best thing you can do is learn and grow from them. Which of course is very true. You should never let your mistakes haunt you or your conscience. Move on and forgive yourself. If a mistake you’ve made involves another person, owning up to your mistake and asking for forgiveness is always advised, and it’s the mature thing to do. Though, no matter how mature it may be, I know that apologizing is one of the hardest things for anyone to do. No one every wants to admit that they’re wrong, but if you can muster up the courage to do so, you will without a doubt feel the weight of regret lifted from your shoulders in that very instant. Sometimes the hardest part about owning up to your mistakes is recognizing that you’ve actually made one. Maybe at the time you thought you were doing/saying the right thing. And perhaps it wasn’t until you saw that you upset or hurt someone else that you started to feel like you may have messed up. If you can acknowledge the situation and resolve it, there’s nothing more confident than that. On the other hand you could completely feel that the other person was just being sensitive, in which case you’ll probably never admit or believe that you were in the wrong. In that case, you could always talk it out with that person to let them know that you didn’t mean for them to react in a negative way and you’d like to gain some understanding as to why your words/actions negatively affected them. At least that would be a step in the right direction.
  3. Knowing Your Worth: Many people lack confidence because they don’t know their worth. They don’t feel that their opinion is valued or worth considering. They don’t feel that they deserve more or better than what they currently have. As a result they settle for what they believe they deserve. The way I see it is, that we allow people to treat us the way they do. If people treat you poorly, it’s because you’ve allowed it. Once you begin to stand up for yourself and KNOW YOUR WORTH, then you will know that your love, friendship, and your overall existence is worth and deserving of more.

xoxo Jamela

“Know your worth.”

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