Welp… I blinked, and yet another month has gone by. I can’t believe 2016 is almost over. Its been quite a year! Full of ups and downs. I’m happy that I got the chance to escape from the hustle and bustle of everyday life, and just vacation with my love in beautiful Manila and Boracay Philippines. I’ll be writing about my time there soon, so keep an eye out!
Since I spent most of this month vacationing… followed by Thanksgiving with the family, I’ve been completely MIA and out of the blogging scene. But I cannot fail myself by not at least adding my confidence post for the month. That has been one of my goals for my blog this year, and I’ve got just 2 more to go!
This November, was filled with love from all areas of my life. Family, friends, coworkers, and strangers alike. I don’t think I had one bad day this month because of the great interactions I had with so many people. My encounters have inspired the one confidence trait that I feel November, December, and the holiday season is all about… Giving.
Confident people are selfless in that they know the world does not revolve around them. They can recognize when someone is in need, and they act on it. Whether it’s in the open, or a silent gesture. They don’t give for recognition, but because it’s in their heart to do so.
This year I had the opportunity to volunteer Thanksgiving morning with my church to help feed and clothe the less fortunate. I’ve always wanted to do something like this, but never came across the opportunity to until now. It was an eye opening experience. I noticed that a lot of people who were really in need, would follow the rules and take just one item per table. They would thank you, smile, and we’re extremely grateful. However there were others who (not to judge a book by it’s cover, but) looked like they weren’t really in need, but had come to collect as much free stuff as they could. They would grab way more than what was allowed, and if you tried to stop them, they’d just keep on going. It was quite shocking, upsetting, and disappointing to see how some people could be so selfish to take from those who really need the help. Other than that I would say the event was a success. Though I hope next year, this issue will be better managed, so that there is more than enough clothing and toys to go around.
Sometimes giving isn’t as easy as you would think. I’ve had times were family or friends would ask for help and I wasn’t able to deliver. I knew that if I did help, it would put me in a hole that I wasn’t sure I’d be able to get out of right away. I know they say you should give your last, and I agree that if you give you will receive more in return. However, I also feel that we should know our limits. Help and give as much as you can without hurting yourself in the end. Especially if it’s the same people asking for help, and you know that if they’d just apply themselves they wouldn’t need the help. If you constantly give to these people, they will depend on you all the time, and maybe even take offense when you actually say no. Trust me, I’ve been there. Sometimes the best thing we could give is not tangible. Sometimes our support, guidance, and so on is all that’s necessary to lend a helping hand.
What are your thoughts on giving? Is it possible to give too much?
“It’s not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving.”