Hello and Happy Autumn! I hope you’re all ready to “fall” into this month’s confident post with me! Let’s jump right in!
So… Have you ever had a conversation with someone who would not stop talking about themselves!? What am I saying…? It’s never really a “conversation.” It’s just one person nonstop talking about how totally freakin awesome they are and how the world revolves around them!! Hahah… yeah. This leads me to two confidence traits that I really admire. I know that some may not agree that these are confidence traits, but hopefully what I have to say about them will get skeptics to reconsider the possibilities of these two traits.
- Silent: I’ve used the quote “confidence is silent, insecurities are loud” before, and I truly believe in this statement. Bragging / talking extremely high of yourself may seem confident to some, but often times I see it as more of a mask to hide insecurities, as a scream for attention, or as simply cocky and self-centered. Even confident people have insecurities, but they know there isn’t any need to play up their situation to feel better about themselves or to feel recognized or special. Confident people know they don’t need the approval of others and they don’t have to prove anything to anyone but themselves. There’s probably a good chance that confident individuals listen more than they speak. Confident people understand that one of the best ways to learn and grow is to pipe down and listen.
- Modesty: This one is a little tricky. I believe that modesty is a trait of a confident person who is secure with who they are. They have no need to prove or explain anything. Their completely happy and content with the person they’ve grown to be. Sure we all have flaws and things we can improve on. But confident people don’t let those things define them. Modesty is all about doing and being your best, without the need for an audience. Confident people know there is no need to throw what good they do have in the faces of people who probably aren’t even interested. It’s okay to be proud of yourself and want to share your success, but once it gets to the point of bragging and finding ways to demonstrate how above all you are… uhh no… what’s really wrong with you? Confident people are doers. They go about their life’s goals without calling attention to themselves and they make shit happen. People will naturally see you doing great things and become interested all on their own. Don’t try to force interest on people… it only looks desperate.
What I’m getting at with these two traits is that confidence does not necessarily mean being the center of attention. It doesn’t mean everybody has to know every single detail of you’re life. Be humble and grateful for what you have going on, and share your success with people that will truly be happy for you. Just tone it down so as to not to appear self absorbed.
“When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself, you are invincible.”